Sure we all want to improve our sexual stamina and performance for our partners, but what about your own sexual satisfaction? Being able to make someone else experience an orgasm is amazing but it’s just as important to be able to get yourself off too. Here we’ve gathered together 10 of the best tips for improving your own sexual satisfaction which, in turn, improves your performance and sexual self-confidence making you a better lover.
- Know Yourself
The best way to learn how to have an amazing orgasm is to understand exactly what turns you on. Forget scrolling through endless porn videos though and instead use your own imagination and have a bit of solo fun. Masturbation is good for your health and it helps you brainstorm new and kinky ways to have fun. Best of all it lets you discover exactly how and where your body likes to be touched – information you can show your partner later on.
- Go Ahead, Get a Little Experimental
Many woman have read about the G-Spot but aren’t sure it exists – trust me, it does. Spending the time to find it can be a bit awkward at first, but it’s well worth the effort. This is also something it’s fun to show the man in your life since once he understands how to stimulate it, your sex will be even better.
- Teach Each Other
As we’ve already established, showing one another exactly how you like to be turned on is in itself, a major turn on. Engage in a bit of mutual masturbation to show each other what you like and have some fun just ‘fooling around’.
- Stretch Out the Foreplay
Contrary to popular belief, foreplay isn’t what comes before sex, it’s a vital part of sex play! Drawing out foreplay with teasing and manual stimulation gets you both whipped into a frenzy which heightens the intensity and sensitivity of your body – the perfect mix for an amazing orgasm.
- Don’t Rush It
Even once you’ve moved on from foreplay to the “main event” make sure you’re not rushing anything. Stay in the moment to savour and enjoy each sensation. Have fun exploring your partner’s body as if it were the first time. Being able to take things slowly will improve any technique you have as it shows your partner you want to make this last and that there’s no place you’d rather be.
- Get Vocal
Maybe you’re not comfortable with really dirty talk, but how do you know unless you try? Have some fun by telling your partner exactly how good everything feels – both what they’re doing and what you’re doing. This type of positive reinforcement encourages your partner to open up more too and soon you’ll be right in the thick of it, whispering things in each other’s ears that will make you weak at the knees for weeks to come.
- Enthusiasm is Everything
Being open about how much you love what you’re doing goes a long way in heightening a person’s arousal. Dive into the deep end and have FUN with sex and make sure your partner knows it. Many women feel embarrassed or self-conscious during sex – reassure her there’s no need to feel anything but pleasure.
- Use Every Part of Your Body
Use your tongue, mouth and hands on your partner’s body at the same time. The more stimulation the better – just keep edging them along to an orgasm without sending them completely over the edge.
- Don’t Shy Away from Toys or Lubes
Using vibrators, cock rings and lube doesn’t mean you’re cheating – it means you’re having fun! Some people are uncomfortable around sex toys the first time, but work through that awkwardness and you’ll soon realize why those stores are so insanely popular.
- Make the Good Times Last
The next day – or even a few days later – send your partner a text or, better yet, some flowers with a dirty little note. Dropping reminders of the good times you had in a non-sexual setting will stoke her fires and keep you both hungry for more.
