Improving your sex life can improve your life in general – everyone knows that. Getting it on with a new flame one night makes you a whole lot happier and nicer to be around in the office the next day. Ditto for those nights when you have a particularly great session with your partner so why not build on that and see just how much sex could improve your life, your health and even your career?
Spank Your Way to a Happier Life
The acronym BDSM refers literally to Bondage, Dominance and Sado-Masochism. Culturally, it has become a catch-all term for any sex act that has a hint of fetishism to it. For some it’s about being tied up, spanked and led around on a leash. For others it’s about submitting themselves physically to another and, of course, for some it’s about taking ultimate control, dictating how their partner behaves sexually and even controlling when they are ‘allowed’ to orgasm. The BDSM lifestyle has enjoyed a more mainstream acceptance as many people have gotten in touch with their own inner nympho or been turned onto various aspects and degrees of the lifestyle through popular books such as ‘Fifty Shades of Gray” and a number of popular movies which feature sexual fetishism.
Recent research suggests that adherents to the BDSM lifestyle enjoy more than a varied and adventurous sex life. According to a study printed in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, they are also a lot happier and more well adjusted than those who stick to more traditional, or vanilla, sexual pursuits. The results from the study compared answers between fans of BDSM and “vanilla” sex across a number of questions on a survey. When compared to the control group, BDSM practitioners were shown to be:
- Less neurotic
- Increasingly extroverted
- More likely to try new things
- Less likely to worry about potential rejection
- Enjoyed a greater sense of well-being
The study comes as no surprise to those already involved with BDSM. Taking your sex play to the next level with role play, props and pushing the boundaries makes you more likely to be open minded and, as a result, helps to feed your adventurous, creative and confident side.
Love Yourself, Heal Yourself?
Health information about masturbation runs the gamut from Victorian horror stories of how it can cause madness to New Age ideas about masturbation being the path to spiritual enlightenment. The truth, of course, lies somewhere in between. Masturbation is certainly one of the healthiest and most natural parts of human sexuality. For men, masturbation can help to encourage harder erections, improves stamina and can even be a preventative measure against prostate cancer. In addition to a number of physical health benefits, masturbation can also help with some mental problems including depression, as it encourages the body to produce dopamine and other natural, feel good chemicals. Mutual masturbation is also used as an effective way to treat sexual dysfunctions in both men and women.
Sex is one of the most amazing, wonderful and powerful aspects of being human. It inspires creativity, provides motivation and sparks our self-esteem in ways we aren’t always immediately aware of. The confidence, creativity and sense of adventure indulging in your favourite sexual past-times brings translates perfectly into many other aspects of your life, including your career. Whether you aspire for a corner office or you want to launch your own business, creativity and self-assurance are two tools you’ll need in order to reach your goals. There are plenty of ways you can get there, but knowing that your sex life can play a role may be the perfect motivation you need to take the plunge. Study after study has shown that people with a happy sex life are more likely to be happy and healthy so the next time you get a saucy idea from a book or movie, throw caution to the wind and see what happens – you could improve more than your love life!
