Sometimes things can go downhill so subtly that you don’t realise it’s gotten bad until you take a step back. This is usually the case with things that are eroded

slowly, over a long period of time. You wouldn’t think it would be hard to know if your sex life is in trouble but the truth is that it can happen so slowly that by the time you notice, it’s in desperate need of help. That’s why we’ve brought together these seven red flags you can look for now in order to turn things around before they go off the rails.

You’re Both Watching TV in Bed

When you head to bed at the end of the day, it’s normal for many couples to spend some time checking their emails. Watching videos, scrolling through social media or just browsing online. This becomes a problem when that’s the only thing a couple is doing in bed. If you look forward to slipping between the sheets each night because it means you get to watch a few more episodes of your favourite series then there’s something not right.

Your Sex Drive is Lower or Gone Completely

A person’s sex drive fluctuates over time and even from one week to the next. So dips in interest are normal but a sex drive that wanes and never comes back is a huge red flag. Much of a man’s sex drive is dictated by his testosterone levels. There are many clinics now that specialise in testosterone hormone health and related therapies. These clinics often offer quick appointment times and same day test results.

Avoiding Opportunities

Thinking about heading to bed early but something stops you? Avoiding your partner as she gets ready for a shower? If you are suddenly avoiding the opportunities you would have pounced on before, it’s time to take a step back and ask yourself why. Maybe you’re doing it subconsciously or perhaps you have an idea as to what’s giving you pause.

Seeing it as a Chore

Sex is something to be savoured, to be enjoyed. If you are given the chance to have sex and you find yourself thinking of it as something to do just to get it over with, it’s pretty clear that something is amiss. Even when this happens, though, people are inclined to think it isn’t that bad. But let’s face it – when the idea of sex makes to sigh with resignation instead of gasping with excitement, it’s time to make a change.

Not a Sex Scene!

Normally when you’re watching a movie with your partner and a sex scene comes on, you’d give her a squeeze, maybe make eyes contact and smile. Even if the scene wasn’t something you were into or even if neither of you had been thinking about sex, just seeing some erotica would be enough to elicit some kind of reaction. When your sex life is out of sync, though, an erotic scene is more likely to produce tension than temptation.

Your Routine is the New Normal

A lot of these red flags are about avoiding sex. But there are also warning signs even if you’re having sex regularly. One of the biggest red flags in an active sex life is when you develop a routine for sex that you stick with and never deviate from. It eventually makes sex feel routine and mechanical – something you just do to get through the motions.

You’ve Been Nodding Through this Whole Article

At the end of the day, the only warning sign that matters is when YOU feel like something is off. Maybe your problems aren’t quite the way we laid them out here or maybe things haven’t progressed to this state but you can see the way things are headed. If your sex life isn’t what you want and you know something is wrong, don’t wait until you’ve checked every red flag on this list – take action now! Check out any of our great articles on ways to spice up your sex life and improve your sexual performance and get back on track for a sex life that is everything you want it to be.