When people think about their overall happiness, they sometimes underestimate just how important improving their sex life can be. Sure, we all know career and family are the most important

but, really, let’s get serious here – a good sex life goes a long way in making someone overall a much happier and even healthier person. With that in mind, finding ways to improve your sex life is more than just a way to get hotter and more turned on – it becomes a way to become a happier and healthier person.

Experiment with Different Kinks

Some people get into their fetish early and they just stick with it. They get into elaborate detail and really dive into the genre. Other people just do what feels good and they don’t give it much extra thought. No matter if you have a fetish you’re already committed to or you just like sticking to the Old School basics, get into the habit of experimenting with different fetishes, role play ideas and other ways to improve your sex life.

Have a Plan to Bail

Part of experimenting is being able to deal with things that fall flat. While a safe word is often associated with being a signal that things have gone too far, it can also provide a way to signal to each other that what’s going on just isn’t getting them off. Every experiment simply isn’t going to work and having a shorthand way of signaling that to each other is the best way to keep experimentation fun.

Look Better Naked

A bit part of what detracts from someone from enjoying sex is their own sexual self-esteem. If you aren’t happy with the way you look when you are naked, this is the time to change that. Whether it’s about improving muscle tone or even changing the size and shape of your penis, get happy about the way you look naked and you’ll be better able to experiment and have fun with sex again.

Go Cold Turkey (At Least for a While)

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. It is a truth we accept as fact when love is involved, so why not lust? Swear off going for home base for a few days. Instead, drive yourself wild with making out and even rounding third base but deny yourself that all-important home run. Create some sexual tension and improve your sex life.

Get Back to Flirting

At the same time as you are cutting back on getting actually down and dirty, increase how often you flirt with your wife or girlfriend. Send her a sexy text in the middle of the day, grab her and kiss her like you mean right before you leave for work, tell her she looks amazing when she comes down to watch TV with you at night. Don’t go overboard – she’ll be liable to think you’re up to something – simply get back in touch with your Game and sweep her off her feet all over again.

Get Sweaty … Mowing the Lawn

Researchers at the University of Washington recently published findings for a study that could easily blow the lid on understanding what women really want. The team discovered that couples who split the workload in a traditional way (i.e. male chores vs female chores) had sex more often than couples who divided work in different ways. Guys who got busy with traditionally ‘manly’ chores such as mowing the lawn, cleaning the cutters or chopping wood were seen as more desirable to their partner.

Change the Environment

Hands down, one of the best ways to spice up your sex life and reconnect intimately is to escape for a few days. Even a weekend trip to a nicer hotel in your own city will give you the chance to forget about what needs to be done around the house, who you’re inviting to the cookout next week or whether or not you can squeeze in a trip to Costco. Forget all that and spend some time focusing only on one another. A few days away can help renew your connection and it gives you the freedom to get frisky all night … and all day.