When it comes to having a great sex life, it’s easy to get overwhelmed in advice. That’s why we’ve created this simple list of 10 Commandments that can make all the difference in the world. Chances are, you are already doing some of these things, but aim to hit them all and you’ll be firing on all cylinders tonight!

Thou Shalt Be Honest About What Turns You On

Maybe your person fetish or turn-n is well outside the mainstream. Whether you get off on a woman in sexy heels or when someone pops a balloon, be honest about it. As long as you aren’t out to hurt anyone and you have a willing partner, you should feel safe to explore any kind of sexual fetish, role play or practice that turns you on.

Partners Shall Communicate Honestly

If you’re going to be honest about what you want, you need to be able to open up to your partner about it. Talking about sex can be awkward at first, even for couples who have pretty open communication. Power through those feelings and you’ll find that communicating honestly to your partner makes it easier for them to open up as well which can help improve your relationship in the bedroom, and beyond.

Pervert, Please Thyself!

Never underestimate the power of masturbation! Learning how to please yourself teaches you how to guide your partner. It also helps men learn to control their orgasm and improve stamina. Controlled masturbation is often a recommended form of sexual therapy for men with conditions such as delayed or early ejaculation.

Practice Makes Perfect – Even in Bed

Trying a new sexual position or role play for the first time? Don’t be discouraged if the first (or second) time is a bit of a flop. Trying something new or changing things up often means there is a learning curve. Don’t let this discourage you. Instead, see it as confirmation that you and your partner are willing to try new things and learn together.

Thou Shalt Establish a Safe Word

When experimenting with new games and sex play, set up some boundaries and a safe word. This word will call an end to everything that’s happening at a given moment without question or exception. Once the moment has passed, you and your partner can examine what happened and whether or not you can try again.

Thou Shalt Keep an Open Mind

Sometimes your partner may suggest something that catches you off guard or comes as a complete surprise. Don’t let a change in direction spell the end of your experimentation. Even if something is a bit out of your comfort zone, try to keep an open mind. Even if it doesn’t end up being something you enjoy, remaining open-minded will make it easier for the two of you to explore new things together.

Thou Shalt Schedule Sex

The reality of life doesn’t always set you up for the perfect opportunity for sex. Maybe it’s been a long day or you’ve been so stressed out that sex is the last thing on your mind. Or maybe you just don’t have the energy and time slips away from you. Bin the excuses by making an agreement to hook up on a specific night. Scheduling sex doesn’t take the fun out of it – if anything it enhances the anticipation!

Thou Shalt Flirt Outrageously

Just because you’re in a long-term relationship, that doesn’t mean you have to be mellow. Flirt with your better half, send her sexy messages and make her remember why she fell in love – and lust – with you in the first place.

Thou Shalt Shop Together

Hit the adult store to get some ideas and check out what’s on offer. You never know – checking out the stock of accessories and toys could introduce you to a new fetish you didn’t even know would get your engine revving.

And On the Last Day, Thou Shalt Rest

Not everything has to be about sex. Consider taking a day off and just getting back to non-sexual satisfaction with your partner. Connect by taking a walk, playing a competitive game or engaging in some other activity that brings you together while keeping your clothes on.