Sex education happens through a number of different methods. Of course, we’re all familiar with the sex education that happens in schools – movies about “that special time of the month” for girls and discussions about wet dreams and body hair for the boys. This gives us a foundation of the mechanics of sex but, for the finer details, both men and women rely on friends, movies and personal experience. This slap-dash method of sex education goes a long way in explaining why so many men and women don’t get a chance to learn what’s really important until well into their adult years. Here we’ve rounded up five pieces of sex education every guy should know, but which too few actually do.
1. Men Don’t Ogle Women’s Bodies … In Bed
Every guy has heard the joke “My eyes are up here, buddy” and while a nice set of breasts can be a momentary distractions, researchers have found that men focus on a woman’s face much more than any other part of her body. Researchers tracked men’s eye movements when they were looking at photos of naked women. Most men focused on the women’s faces rather than other parts of their body. The reason for this remains a matter of debate, though scientists believe it’s because the face offers more cues on whether or not the woman is aroused.
2. Women Really Do Peak Later
Everyone has heard the saying that men peak sexually round 18 while women’s don’t peak until their early 30s. It’s been an urban legend for years but science has now offered up proof that it’s true. Women develop more slowly and their sexual performance usually in their late 20s or early 30s. Men, meanwhile, are much quicker to develop and they do peak in their late teens or, at the latest, their early 20s. No wonder cougars love the young ones!
3. You Penis Can Break
Trauma to the penis usually happens during vigorous sexual contact. Simply put, it happens when the penis is jammed against something. The most common way this happens is during vigorous thrusting where one or both partners shift slightly, causing the penis to go off target. Usually, the injury will heal on its own and men can get back to their regular activities within a day or. Repeated injury, however, can lead to a build-up of scar tissue and, in extreme cases, the development of Peyronie’s disease.
4. Sex Toys Are Not a Reflection on Performance
While women have embraced sex toys with enthusiasm, many men still see them as a threat in the bedroom. Bringing toys into the bedroom is often seen by men as an admission of failure – that they need help in pleasing their partner. In reality, the opposite is true. Specially designed vibrators can hit a woman’s G-spot in a way a man’s penis simply isn’t designed to. Cock rings help men achieve fatter, harder erections and can boost stamina. Special lubricants can heat things up or provide a tingling sensation to the skin, heightening arousal and sensitivity for both partners. Visit a sex shop together for a naughty shopping spree or look around online and see what you can find to take your sex play to the next level.
5. Get on Your Back
The missionary position may be the most popular position in the world, but it’s no good if you want to rock your woman’s world. In order for a woman to be positioned perfectly for an earth shattering orgasm, you want her to be on top or in a position where you can enter her from behind, such as Doggy Style. On top, a woman is better able to control the pace and can grind against you, stimulating both her vagina and clitoris for a double packed orgasm. When entering from behind, you’re in a better position to stimulate her G-spot which can lead to a climax so intense, you may need to hold on.
Sex education encompasses the mechanics and science of sex but a well-rounded sex education means understanding how to satisfy your partner and make the most out of your own performance. The more you know, the more you’ll want to know and embarking on learning about new positions and techniques will enhance your performance and keep your sex life vibrant.
