There’s no denying that Tinder has changed the online dating game for good. But that doesn’t mean it’s the go-to place when you want to get your freak on. In fact, there are a 
number of websites that make Tinder look like something your home school cousin might use. These three websites cater to the sexually creative, the erotically daring and the ultimately open-minded people.
Adult FriendFinder
Adult FriendFinder is the grand-daddy of erotic social networking. Originally established back in the mid-1990s, the website has seen more than its share of controversy. It’s also been the springboard for countless hookups and relationships.
Adult FriendFinder users can be as descriptive as they want in their profiles. The website offers fetish and interest options ranging from light BDSM (spanking, leather, etc) to extreme humiliation, force fantasies and even contractual agreements. Users can connect with others based on their shared interests and proximity. Relationships don’t have to be based on who’s closest to you, though they do let you see who shares your interests and is nearby. This combination makes the Adult FriendFinder site – and its community – one of the most diverse and flexible you’ll find anywhere.
Over the years, the website has been the focus of several controversies. Since their creation, the company has been accused of pushing sexually suggestive ads, exaggerating their female-to-male member ratios and engaging in some dodgy billing practices. Still, it remains one of the most popular hook up sites for people in the fetish community as well as those looking to explore and experiment. As with any online service, users should always protect their personal information and check their credit card to ensure proper billing.
The Slavefarm
The Slavefarm was introduced just a few years after Adult FriendFinder, in 1998. When it burst on the scene, the hardcore fetish community supported it from day one and today it hosts user content ranging from photos and videos to erotic fiction and how-to manuals on everything from rope buy and knots to the best ways to train a slave.
As its name implies, the focus is on the female submissive and male Dominant relationship specifically. The website is up front about their approach, their topic and how they expect members to conduct themselves. For some, the rules and expectations make it appear less welcoming but its members say it’s all about staying on topic. To be fair, their focus on this specific fetish has paid off in spades. Over the years, The Slavefarm has become the premier site for research on the subject as well as fantastically graphic original user content.
Fet Life
Fet Life is another one of the flagship erotic social networking sites that’s still going strong. Fet Life went live in 2008 as a way for people in the BDSM community to connect more easily. Although it has strong connections with the BDSM community, it welcomes people no matter what their personal fetish or sexual orientation.
Fet Life is unique in that it not only encourage group participation – it’s a requirement. Members of fetish and interest groups are requires to post and reply to posts with a group or they can be dropped by the group moderator. This not only encourages greater discussion and connection, it prevents lurkers and trolls from becoming a serious problem on the site.
While Fet Life isn’t specially a hook up site in the same vein as Tinder or Adult FriendFinder, it still has a healthy hook up section that is used regularly by members. Their dedicated groups offer fans of certain fetishes the chance to get together and hare ideas, stories and advice. These groups also often Ask Threads such as Ask a Submissive, Ask a Mistress and so on. These threads make it easier for people to explore new fetishes and learn more about what might turn them – or a new partner – on in the bedroom.
